Summing it Up...

Now, that I'm way on the wrong side of sixty, I feel that being true to self is important. "I yam, what I yam." Kindness and smiles are to be given away. Women are strong. Men are more vulnerable than we believe. Husbands may come and go...but one thing I know for sure is that I will NEVAH live without a corgi or coffee in my life if I can prevent it. Come piles of dog fur or hot water!

Sunday, January 31, 2010

We are family...


Have you ever looked up the word "family" in the dictionary? It says 1.) a man, woman, and their offspring; 2.) a group of people linked by ancestry/blood line; 3.)
a group of like things.
So, family is you and yours...you and your pets or dear friends or roommate, or you and your bloggie gang.

I spend more time talking...commenting back and forth with my blog sista's than with my own children. Granted, they are in their mid-thirties, and are not feeling the lack of their mama in any way, believe me...but, still...that's interesting, in the big picture of things.

I seldom share thoughts with my spouse. That's probably a mistake overall, but, true.
I don't tell my kids my worries or woes...but the corgi kids hear all about it, and so do some of my blog sista's.

We all need someone to rant to, in a safe environment. I have found that our men cannot handle the truth that sometimes spills out at stressful times. I have been conditioned to keep a lot in. It's not worth all the upheaval, and making somebody else feel lousy. But sista's, of a like mind, understand, and listen, and don't judge. They give you their opinion back, and share some of their background and experiences.
It's a safe place, this sisterhood thing.

We're from all over the place. We all share thoughts and emotion when the mood arises, or is needed. Comments, emails flow back and forth in between households.
Women find ways to function, and methods to express things that bubble inside us. We don't need to knock the blocks off the men we live with. They are able to remain in their little obtuse bubble, not realizing the wrath and dismay that simmers in their woman. Life is secure. The sista's cover each other. Airings alleviate the pressure.

Family comes in many forms. Girls....we, my dears....are family!
Thank you for that.

11 comments:

Olde Dame Penniwig said...

Well, I have nothing sassy to say, and I have nothing goo-goo to say, either...so I'll just say "Thanks" for that post!!!

P.S. I'm the cutest of the sistas...live with it...

Buttercup said...

Thank you. I was thinking about this today. I do spend a lot of time with my "on-line" sisters and thankfully, they are now real-life friends. Just had lunch with two of them and what a good time was had!

P.S. Penni, you really made me laugh, our cutest sista!

ClassyChassy said...

Enjoyed reading your post - and oh, you put up a picture of one of the maniacal little girls that Penniwig created! How lovely!!! But something about that poster child just isn't right!!!
About men - when you just want to "talk" or "vent", they are conditioned to SOLVE THE PROBLEM, and then they get upset when you really didn't want to solve it, you just wanted to think out loud!!! Better to talk to the Corgis. They listen and understand those kind of things!
**hugs**

Ms Sparrow said...

You, my dear, said a mouthful. Dogs and boggie friends are great listeners (not necessarily in that order).

Chatty Crone said...

My girlfriend lives in Cary and teaches - schools have been closed for a couple of days now.

Well, you my dear have hit the nail on the head.

We are looking to relate, talk, and for friendships.

I couldn't have said it better.
sandie

Whosyergurl said...

Doug only WISHES that I had been conditioned to keep it all in! Plus, he is my "second time around." I was so docile with my ex. HA. No longer. Doug says "Cheryl isn't one of those girls who says 'nothing is wrong.' She has her list and she is ready to tell you what is wrong!"
Poor Doug.
Yeah, right!
He always says "You love me more than you love Chelsea!"
And I say "Because she loves me unconditionally!"

Hoosier Hugs,
Cheryl

Nishant said...

I'll just say "Thanks" for that post!!!

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LADY JANE'S EMPORIUM said...

Ah....here I am in the comfort of my Sistas...now I have injured my hand so typing the last few days has been ugly!!! Infact yesterday I typed almost nothing! I just came from our dear Chattys post today...trying to catch up with my sistas ya know...EVERYONE go read it please!
So...here I sit...smiling...catching up---laughing out loud------- as what you say here my dear Susan is so true...and after reading dear Chattys post today and being so positive the only thing I can add (safely ) is....YES dear Penniwig...YOU are the cutest Sista...but grinning and feeling good I add...YOU are the cutest by far especially after having the tough act of following our DEAR eldest Susan...and Me in the middle!
Ahhhhhh.......this FAMILY stuff is wonderful!

Cathy Santarsiero, "The Christmas Corgi" said...

Amen, Sista! (do mid 40's sistas count too? LOL)

ocmist said...

You said it all... and so WELL!!! It's kind of strange how much so many of you have come to mean so much to me in such a short time. It's going to take a bit to catch up with everyone after that trip and resting up from it (and being really sick yesterday) so please be patient with me... I've missed you all so much while away... but at least I was able to take my corgis with me! :) Linda

JeanMac said...

Thanks, we do depend on one another - help and encouragement always there.

Y'all come back now...

Y'all come back now...

Everyone is special, and counts!